Hi, this isnt a review of match.com, but I thought people here could really help me out!

I'm a senior at Lewis and Clark College in Portland, OR and for my communication thesis, I am studying how relationships are initially formed through online dating services. I have chosen to focus on Match.com

If you currently have a profile on Match.com, or have ever used Match.com, please take my survey! It will only take 5 minutes of your time.

If you never have used match.com, you can still help me out by spreading the word to friends and family who might have used the service and are willing to take my survey.

My survey link: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=0CgK6YZhzFKM0 cWm5vqRTw_3d_3d

Thank you so much for your help! I really appreciate it!

If you have any questions, feel free to email me at beckathesissurvey@gmail.com

Do not use this service, they keep billing your credit card even after you cancel and they claim to have a "NO refund policy" even if you are an inactive user, shutdown your profile and cancel.


They are rude and have horrible customer service, the manager didn't even have the nerve to get on the phone at the call center.

Use your money on another service ---- my fee was $59 a month! For 1 year of being inactive, that is a lot of $$$$$$$.

I had to go through my bank to dispute.

After reading these reviews, I immediately cancelled my subscription.
I'm out $35.00 and still don't know how to get in touch with the guy I sent an e-mail to. Bummer........
Thanks though!

BAITED! I am pretty sure I was baited, right of the bat. I had one legit contact then several "winks" from profiles of women around 27-32, all out of state all with the desired age range of men they were seeking from 28-60, which seemed bit odd because I have only seen scammers do that. The profiles were obviously cut and pasted from somewhere else. One had checked that she didn't have kids and didn't want kids, then said she was the proud mother of two kids in her text. She was wearing a hat covering part of her face and text that was obviously Cyrillic Russian and she appeared very Slavic but yet she was supposedly in Delaware and only spoke English. Half the profile made sense, half was gibberish as if it had been cut and pasted from somewhere else. There were at least 3 profiles that I received winks from and they looked very much the same.

I was wondering if Match doesn't pay some people in other countries to act as legitimate members and just sit and bait people to stick with it.

About 80% of there 15 million members are non-active. The don't post how many have signed on in the past 30-60 -90 days. It is all just laced to get you to waste your time and pay them money on an outdated dating model. PAID internet dating has run its course!

Anyway, I canceled the membership the next morning but was refused a refund (I was only on for one day and that was long enough to know something wasn't right). Now I stuck there until it runs its course.

So I intend to show them no mercy for their deceptive practices. Since sites like MySpace and FaceBook are free, these guys are hard pressed to keep the cash rolling in so they are resorting to deception. They need to go out gracefully and change the business model to make advertisers fit the bill and stop cheating honest customers.

I hate going to a bar or making up a reason to say hi to someone in the grocery store but maybe it is time to just go back to those things. There are good people out there still trying these tried and true devices! Embrace the reality of face-to-face rejection like we have always had to do, its what gives us fortitude!

They make no attempt to match personalities; their recommendations are compeletely irrelevant. They will screw you with an auto-renewal. Avoid this by canceling immediately after you sign up. Your account will still work for the amount of time you paid for, but then they will probably screw you some other way (if rates go up, you will have to pay the new rate, and you probably won't be eligible for the free 6-month renewal, but you probably have to request that before it auto-renews, so you will get screwed anyway.) Better to just avoid companies that do business this way. Their other site, chemistry.com is the same way.

I think it is a terrible experience. I have been on Match for far longer than I want to admit. It is ALL about your STATS and your pics...Nothing less. All this hoopla about connections and meeting the right person is BS. They trump up the BS by bringing in a person with NO qualifications to tell you what you are doing wrong...Dr. Phil?!?! Please.... You could have every single thing in common, but if you don't "measure up" to the stats that the women is idolizing...end of story. What is wrong with these people?! Are we that superficial now that we would rather be along for the rest of our lives because someone was 5 lbs overweight or was not in their 6'1"-6'3" range?! I am betting that the success ration of online dating is probably around the 5-10% range. Most guys are players andmost women are non-realists...

I met about 30 women on match.com. I'm a male and I think there are must be about 30 men for every woman at least on this site. Women on this site can be super picky. I've sent out 25 to 30 messages and am lucky if I get 2 or 3 replies.
I'm a nice looking tall and thin guy. I'm not looking for perfection, but the women are. Warning: Stay away from a women who's headline is coffee tea or me. She has herself listed on the Hudson Streetsboro Ohio border. She will take, take, and take. Then for no reason, break your heart and never want to have anything to do with you. She's 51 with shoulder length dark brown hair. She turned out to be the worst mistake of my life. I literally busted my tail for this woman. She tossed me aside like yesterday's garbage. Guys, I mean it, stay away.
If you don't, you will be sorry. She will take everything she can get, give nothing in return and then without warning, never want to see, talk or do anything with you. She is brutal.

Saw doctom7 on match.com. Age 58 from Garden City. This guy is a sosapath
lier and money scamer of women. He belongs in a pysco institution where he works.
Ladies run as fast as you can from this sicko. 2

What can I say? I suppose it's as bad as any other online dating site... My personal experience (as a male) is that you'll get 1 reply out of 10 emails. Some of this may be because non subscribers can't respond, others because people are just rude (or possibly they've gotten so many hits it's impossible for them to respond).

What you will learn is something about human nature when someone can hide under a cloak of anonymity but that applies to all online dating sites.

All the other comments about non subscribers vs. subscribers are generally valid. The site is set up to entice you into joining. At the very least, IMO, you should be able (as a subscriber) to see who is subscribing or not, but I'm sure this would lower match's profit (by derailing the enticement process).

I'm a one month member, and uncertain as to how to QA match. Skeptism always wise. The lack of either member reponses or repliess is disconcerting. With more time on the market, opportunities for illicit/unethical business practices do increase. It is greedy, poor long-term business to sell additional services which need to be paackaged-included; i.e., email staus notice, etc. Match has, in addition, already solicited me with new/improved chemistry.com. This is crooked. Improve the original service, please.
If completely illegitimate, how to explain:
1) date occurrence,
2)different essays
3) all the photos. Would someone actually stage all this? Perhaps?

Members do Not respond; since, we live in an ADD, immediate grad, me/narcissistic tech world. You asked for the online experience, there you have it.

At the same time WE all suffer from gross, unrealistic, unhealthy expectations, and perfections.

Others, furthurmore, commit strategic errors; i.e. the male searching for someone half his age, those who lie, and women who can not understand or even be hostile-resentful that youth interest is a familty consideration.
I'm 43, certainly, explanation was given when asked why my interest from 30-35. I thought it was obvious.
The other possible strategic mistake, lack of photos.
Also, 34+, 34-36 are my viewers or interested pool. lower 30's no to low interest. Youngest responderwas 33, average mean 36, the market demagraphic stats do not lie, gentlemen of all people, we know the numbers game. and everyone stop chasing waterfalls.

I low rated them for hitting me with chemistry dor con into the 2nd week.










Gentleman, skeptism is wise, howver

Obviously, SilverFox and Jrj1430 are member of Match.com, writing from one of their company desk. They copy-paste their messages a few times in this list, just to raise the stars-rate. Match is all but reliable

The men on the site are typically shallow, play games, etc. Pictures posted are often not current and misleading. Older men are looking for much younger women which I find offensive.
Some men respond who you would think never read your profile, because you have absolutely nothing in common. Obviously physical looks is top on their list and not much else matters. One option for non smokers is, "Smoking no way" and smokers respond anyway. It definitely attracts men who were unsuccessful in finding women in a conventional manner, and this was their last ditch effort. To confirm that point, some profiles indicate a sense of desperation, while others are so in love with themselves, they are down right arrogant. I love the ones that say, "I am an attractive..."Does one really have an objective opinion on their physical appearance? Sorry men, if you think you are attractive, you probably waste way too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, and not on the things that matter in life.

It is a reputable site...wish you could im and browse without everyone seeing you are online.

Match.com is a total rip off. Why you ask? For starters their free membership is only there to deceive people into paying. It makes it appear as if there are millions of people you can interact with when the truth is that you can't. Paying members can send mail but if they are interested in a non-paying member they cannot contact them because you have to pay to read mail as well as send it. Those people are only allowed to post profiles for one reason. It disillusions potential paying subscribers into believing there are tons of attractive singles on their site that they can connect when, in reality, there are only a few.

I never knew this for the longest time as a paying member and was always confused as to why someone would wink at me and when I wrote them I'd never receive a response. It's because they couldn't respond. So, if 90% of the members are non paying subscribers then the amount of people you can actually contact from their entire membership is very small. The only reason I ever found this out was because I accidentally forgot to update my account and my automatic payments were stopped. I then tried to read an email I received afterwards and found out that I couldn't. Once I found that out I decided I'd never again pay to be a member of their site. Why would it even be worth it?

The fact that paying members cannot contact non subscribers is something they like to keep a secret. I know this because I attempted to post this information on my profile so other subscribers that probably aren't aware could be informed and they wouldn't allow it. Why? They don't want that ugly bit of truth getting out because their days of robbing folks would be over.

What they also like to keep a secret is which members you actually can contact and expect a response from. You have no idea whether the person you're interested in is a paying subscriber or not so what happens is you spend 20 minutes of your valuable time typing an introduction to someone who most likely can't even read or respond to your mail. The reason they hide it is because then you'd be able to see with your own eyes just how few people you could actually contact so they say screw you. They don't care if you're wasting your time as long as they get their money.

Bottom line: Match.com is a dirty company that deliberately deceives it's paying members for profit.

Real cheats. Auto renews for you. You deregister they claim they will stop billing you and since you have been billed, you have the right to the service till the end of the period you have paid. But once you access, they reactivates you and charge you. Total bullshit. So it is a site where they screw you left, right and center. You have to remember to deregister just before it ends or for convenience, anytime but pay for the month you do not use. All lies on this site.

Match.com is 100% cons and 0% pros.

The correct name is Match.con.

I would like to subtract stars! I'm sure their empoloyees are the ones giving them a good rating.
I was a paid member and discovered they had my profile reading that I was looking for married men, heavy drinkers and smokers, everything was the opposite of what I had put. I was totally embarrassed and it took four emails before they replied but still did nothing about my problem.

Too secular for me but nice if you want to meet people with common interests. Girls write back one out ten usually.

Match.com is the most terrible dating site on the web. On most sites when you subscribe you can send someone an email and they can read it. Not on Match.com, when you send someone an email that person can't read the email unless they are a subscriber. What's that all about? Maybe only 25 within a 25 mile radius of me are even brought up when I do a serch. Really just an over priced site that is the worse of the bunch.

Doesn't work too well. I've been on more than a year and have yet to meet one woman! Not only that, you get the constant scams from Russia.

Match.com is horribly fake. Every time you try to email someone you get only one email in return and then you cannot get a hold of the person ever again. That is because their profile is fake and they are trying to put false confidence in many people so that they will renew their subscription. There is even a class action going on against match.com alleging them of paying employees to put false confidence in people so that they renew. Type match.com fraud on google and see how many dozens of sites come up. There was even a match.com profile that was so fake because it had pictures of a hollywood actress. Match doesn't do anything to check the validity of its ads. Avoid this site at all costs.

I found their email confidentiality to be non-existent as emails sent one person ended up also being received by others! When I brought this to their attention, Match, despite their promotional claim to respond in 24 hrs, never replied to any one of three complaints I sent. When their customer service person sought to extend my membership and was told of my dissatisfaction no offer was made to correct the situation and the promise to have someone contact me was, once again, not kept.

If you meet people you don't like on a dating site, that's not the site's fault, it's just life, get over it. However when the website is disorganized and full or errors and strange "events" then it's the website's fault. Now my problem with match is that it is very disorganized and things happen without explanation or warning. I pay so I can avoid this type of non-sense. You must keep checking your profile to make sure that it is indeed up and that it still says what you intended to say especially the multiple choice parts - I've logged on and found I had "changed" my profile to choices that I wouldn't even think of, and my profile was constantly "waiting for approval" due to changes even when I hadn't logged on for days. I would have appreciated at least an email warning me that my profile had changed so I could check it and see what the ghost did. Any programmer could write this in. A week after I joined, they tell me that my username has too many numbers in it and I should change it and let everyone who's contacted me know. Why wasn't I warned of this when I first created the username I mean any one can write a program that counts! This doesn't need human intervention. Well apparently they are not using real programmers - they just have someone sitting in the back yard throwing toads into a big black pot and hoping something comes out.

There isn't a rating low enough!! These people simply took my money and did not provide access to the site, and they provide no real way to contact them except by E-mail to their "customer satisfaction department" that simply replies with the same canned E-mail response to the effect--"gee, its not on our end--we're trying to be just great" Actually, it appears they are doing nothing more than scamming "lonely hearts" and hiding behind a "d/b/a" site name, so there is no way to find the company that is actually taking the money. THERE IS NO "MATCH.COM COMPANY"; ITS JUST AN ALIAS. NO ONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD DO BUSINESS WITH THESE PEOPLE.

Go to a bar dudes. I tried this garbage once and when a chick sends you a message, you have to freaking pay to see it! Shame on the creators of match.com, shame!

Beware a guy named Winger with numbers after the Winger. He is VERY MUCH MARRIED with 2 kids and no plans to divorce. Why he is on there is beyond me. His income level is also not what he makes it out to be also. Everyone I've met on this site has turned out to either be a loser or married. Avoid Match at all costs!

These people play any tricks and traps to get your money. As long as you pay and pay more you'll get a reasonable web site, but they are the internet equivalent of oil companies.

The site itself is simple to use, you do have to fork over some cash to send emails and reply to emails. I am getting discouraged with the people on the site itself. Some of them are superficial. I understand that this world is full of superficial men. It's not really Match's fault, but I'm starting to think it's all a gimmick. It has a view counter, and for some reason my view count goes up but when I hit who viewed me, there's nothing. No pictures. It says no one's viewed me. I also am trying out Perfect match.com, and that's even worse, so if you have to go with one site, I'd go with match, but be cautious. And don't let it be your only source of meeting people. There are so many weirdo's on these sites. But all in all I wouldn't recommend these match sites, and am going to let my subscription run out and end it. I'd rather be single than deal with superficial stupid people.

I agree with "KinkyPinky" from the comment on 10/25/05. I, too, almost fell for the "3 day free trial". Then I noticed that it stated after the 3rd day they would bill me for the $77.94 fee for 6 months. What if I only wanted the service for 1 month? Why are you not given a choice of which service you want? Nooooo, they want to hit you for the most they can get. I sent them 2 emails, one asking why they don't at least offer free emailing like Webdate.com, and the other about the fee charge. They sent me no response to the email question, but did tell me I could call them for an explanation about the free trial. If their intention is to truly help individuals find a match, they should be as helpful as possible. So for all of you out there, if you want to try a FREE, yes free sight, try Webdate.com. You can email people all day long and take it from there. Good luck to all of you. ** For you tht would like to reach me from the sight try me on Webdate, username "ande4" **

Their name should probably be changed to "watch the con", not "match dot com". Now Match is saying that they've gotten the lawsuit employee to sign an avidavit that she was never and employee. Yeah right. Isn't that too easy. If anybody brings up an allegation against a giant like Match that seriously damages its reputation, do you really believe that all Match would do would be to get the person to sign an avidavit? No way, it'd be more like suing the pants off that woman. The case of her signing an avidavit just means she's been bribed with a few millions to keep her quiet. Scams will never end. Support the free sites: oasisoflove.com and end the greed.

Their name should probably be changed to "watch the con", not "match dot com". Now Match is saying that they've gotten the lawsuit employee to sign an avidavit that she was never and employee. Yeah right. Isn't that too easy. If anybody brings up an allegation against a giant like Match that seriously damages its reputation, do you really believe that all Match would do would be to get the person to sign an avidavit? No way, it'd be more like suing the pants off that woman. The case of her signing an avidavit just means she's been bribed with a few millions to keep her quiet. Scams will never end. Support the free sites: oasisoflove.com and end the greed.

By far the best online dating site out there. It has every tool you could possibly need to; look for, contact, and avoid anyone out there.

Attention women in Tucson AZ. A man who is on Match.com is a terrible fake. He is a liar and mentally unstable. When I saw his profile back on there, I was shocked. His username on Match is adventurer99. He has gentital herpes. He proposed to a friend of mine then backed out - after she had spent every last dime on their life together. He is living in the house that they bought together and his profile is an absolute farce. I have no reason to say these things other than to warn unknowing trusting women out there who might give him a chance.

Match is a waste of money. I know some of the people who have their profiles and pictures posted on match and they are not like they describe themselves online. One of the people on there I dated for a short time. This person was not right side up, if you know what I mean. It's understandable and commendable that such a service is available, but the chances for abuse and deception are too high. Once in a while eople send me a wink and have no picture on their profile. What are they hiding? Or hiding from? Their spouse? The police? I am interested in those who are moving to my town and list themselves before they even get here. You cannot add paragraphs to your profile. If you can, how to do so is a mystery since match does not indicate how to add them. You may type in paragraph from, but when published, the breaks dissapear. One person sent me an e-mail with a rude blurb about a picture I had on my profile. The response I sent was met with a frightening e-mail. This person was reported to match and they were "reprimanded." The person reported, suggested I committ suicide, and had been watching me... which I felt was rude and homicidal sounding. I won't re-new. There are enough freaks and sex addicts on the streets. I am not going to pay to actually interract with them online.

I have used match.com on and off for a couple of years to meet new people between relationships. As any type of dating, I think you get out of it what you put in. If you meet every single guy that sends you a wink, you'll probably meet many who are imcompatible and a few who are just bad for a variety of reasons. I have met many nice men and even had a couple of boyfriends out of it. You just have to keep your psycho radar up and pay attention to the red flags. The site seems to work well. I agree they did have some email glitches in the past, but it seems to have been worked out.

I am not sure of what to make of Match.com as yet because I am not yet a subscriber. I came across a ''3 DAY FREE TRIAL'' promotion so I thought that i'd try this out before I become a subscriber. I think I have found my perfect match on Match.com but because I am not yet a subscriber I cannot e-mail this person back, but when I saw under the 'Contact this member for FREE' I thought GREAT! So I clicked on the 'I agree' button and it automatically sent me to the Subscribers page. Now, correct me if I am wrong but doesn't the word ''FREE'' mean that you do not have to part with your money? It seems to me that Match.com has a different interpretation of the word ''FREE'' because you cannot get this so called ''3 DAY FREE TRIAL'' unless you subscribe and submit your credit card details! I have contacted Match.com over what seems to me like FALSE ADVERTISING and I have not yet received a reply from them. I would be interested to know if anyone has managed to get hold of this ''3 DAY FREE TRIAL'' WITHOUT having to submit payment details because I have tried at least three times without success. Also, I checked the Terms and Conditions section of this so called free trial and under the eligibility section it is basically saying that if you are 18 or over and are not yet a subscriber then you are eligible for this ''FREE TRIAL'' when I clicked on the 'I agree' button once again, surprise surprise! it says that I am not eligible for this promotion? and then it says at the bottom of that ''But don't let that stop you SUBSCRIBE here'' I believe that there is no ''3 DAY FREE TRIAL'' that Match.com says there is. I do believe FALSE ADVERTISING is an offence and should be reported.

First off I was contacted by a member who had found a profile from 2 years ago. It had my old email address which was closed, and how he contacted me I will never know. I signed on for a FREE 3 day subscription in order to write back to him, BUT had to use my credit card. I emailed and cancelled the free trial after 2 days and was assured it had been. When I got my credit card bill a month later, they had charged me for 3 months. I have emails from them stating I did not have an account, but I was billed. Secondly, the email address they have for me is my old, closed email. I can't change it and have emailed them several times about adding my current email address, I get no response. I get no emails, winks, or anything else, as I suspect everything is going to the old email address and old account which has been inactive for 2 years. I am furious and warn everyone to stay away from them.

Match.com is after your money, after joining for free you will get an email one day from a fake person whom you can only contact by forking over money. If you try to peek at fake person's profile, you will find that they cannot be found. This fake person will seem perfect for you, or at least interesting, but remember they have made him/her up, and they will come with a name right out of a Harlequin Romance book, but you cannot see their profile, and when you go to email them back, Match.com will even tell you they are online now, which is strange since they cannot find the profile, (HOW CAN THEY TELL so-and-so@talkmatch.com iIS ONLINE WHEN THEY CANNOT FIND THEM? HMMMM) They should be ashamed of themselves.

The previous reviewer, Matchmyazz, seems to think this is her personal forum to let every one know about her mistakes. She was supposed to rate Match.com but instead went on about her poor choices in a relationship and how it's some how Matches responsibility to get her some kind of revenge. I'm sure most other women will not be fooled by this guy's act, especially not for three years!! I find it amusing that this gal chose to stay with this guy knowing the things she did about him, while a guy like me, who has no unusual sexual desires, makes a good living, lives a clean life with no baggage and is reasonably good looking, remains single for months at a time. I guess it's true that nice guys finish last!

Match.com has a sociopath on its list. I know. I dated him for 3 yrs. Only 2 mos post dumping me for the 3rd and final time, he signed onto match.com looking for his next victim to scam This lil bastard is 38, has always lived at home with his mommy upstairs in a filthy pig pen of a room and has never married or had children. His mother ensures the failure of all of his relationships by being hostile and rude to his ladies. She truly is psycho mom. She doesnt want her baby to leave her like her hubby did. This pig has some sappy lines on his profile about how he and a woman may be eachothers DREAM date. He is dreaming because he doesnt reveal the truth. The truth is he is epileptic and doesnt always take his meds so his prospective date may end up like I did...having to leave work to rush to the ER to bail his lame ass out. Something he could have controlled by taking his meds. Trouble started when I was seperated from my husband and met this PRINCE charming. He would lead me to believe I deserved better and he was the one to give it to me. LMAO. He was fired from his job at HD as cart boy. How can you screw that one up? I gave him employment at my shop and yet his mother felt I was no good because I didnt have the means to provide him with health insurance. So here he is online...avoiding talking about his true self: how he lies, cheats and lies some more. I find out this pig was arrested for cocaine trafficking when employed at Kimberly Clark. He gave cocaine to an undercover female officer claiming he only did it to get down her pants. Now there's a decent man! He and a bunch of others had been arrested as well - but the criminal got off because the GA police accidentally arrested him TWICE for the same crime. He walked. Had they NOT screwed up so badly, he would probably still be in jail. Thats the dream date every girls hopes for right? What about the lil restraining order his ex GF placed on him though he swears it was because his FATHER threatened her in court? Oh, didnt I mention COURT? He owned a TKD studio and lost it in no time flat. THe GF was angry because he cheated on her and kicked him out...after he gave her half of the business. She said NO WAY and he lost in court. She was awarded the entire school. Yeah, Im sure its all her fault. Funny what LIARS the jury folk can be. He ends up teaching boxing at a friends gym and beds down an 18 yr old student when he was in his mid 30's. Sure, it was ok of him to lie to her about his age. She was angry when she found out from what she told me. But hey...whats a little age difference! I guess age matters when you consider this man ended up telling me he wanted to crossdress and have me penetrate him with a sex toy. His theory of a mouth is a mouth smacked of on the fence gaydom. When he left me again for the now 21 yr old boxing student, I found out through some mutual friends of hers that he made her dress him up and mess with his hiney. Here's the sickpart: I asked him why he said he never did that with anyone b4 when he had...he said he was embarrASSED. Apprently NOT TOO MUCH THOUGH! After the drama of his leaving for the umpteenth time and me saying NO MORE, he decides to inform me he is gay. Then later it was bisexual. Then its back to straight. Never mind the two male sexual encounters this pig had with a priest when he was 16, and another with a male family friend of his own age. SURE YOU HATE THE MALE BODY HONEY! So here is this pig of a so called MAN who doesnt know his sexual orientation and doesnt reveal what a psycho pervert he is (yes, this includes hitting during sex and choking)on match.com I feel extremely frightened for the women who think he is a gem because though his financial circumstances suck along with living with MOTHER, they will be hurt. I wrote to match.com to let them know this pig impregnanted me and left me to rot. His account was active within the wk...and I was pregnant by this scuz only a few mos ago. They wont do a damned thing about it. No woman will know what hit her. He is a charmer who is capable of lying through his teeth to get his needs met. Money, attention and sexual perversions are his enticement. In fact, he told me, If I were using you, you wouldnt know what hit you. Nice huh? Match.com needs to pay attn to the pigs on their site.

Match.com has a sociopath on its list. I know. I dated him for 3 yrs. Only 2 mos post dumping me for the 3rd and final time, he signed onto match.com looking for his next victim to scam This lil bastard is 38, has always lived at home with his mommy upstairs in a filthy pig pen of a room and has never married or had children. His mother ensures the failure of all of his relationships by being hostile and rude to his ladies. She truly is psycho mom. She doesnt want her baby to leave her like her hubby did. This pig has some sappy lines on his profile about how he and a woman may be eachothers DREAM date. He is dreaming because he doesnt reveal the truth. The truth is he is epileptic and doesnt always take his meds so his prospective date may end up like I did...having to leave work to rush to the ER to bail his lame ass out. Something he could have controlled by taking his meds. Trouble started when I was seperated from my husband and met this PRINCE charming. He would lead me to believe I deserved better and he was the one to give it to me. LMAO. He was fired from his job at HD as cart boy. How can you screw that one up? I gave him employment at my shop and yet his mother felt I was no good because I didnt have the means to provide him with health insurance. So here he is online...avoiding talking about his true self: how he lies, cheats and lies some more. I find out this pig was arrested for cocaine trafficking when employed at Kimberly Clark. He gave cocaine to an undercover female officer claiming he only did it to get down her pants. Now there's a decent man! He and a bunch of others had been arrested as well - but the criminal got off because the GA police accidentally arrested him TWICE for the same crime. He walked. Had they NOT screwed up so badly, he would probably still be in jail. Thats the dream date every girls hopes for right? What about the lil restraining order his ex GF placed on him though he swears it was because his FATHER threatened her in court? Oh, didnt I mention COURT? He owned a TKD studio and lost it in no time flat. THe GF was angry because he cheated on her and kicked him out...after he gave her half of the business. She said NO WAY and he lost in court. She was awarded the entire school. Yeah, Im sure its all her fault. Funny what LIARS the jury folk can be. He ends up teaching boxing at a friends gym and beds down an 18 yr old student when he was in his mid 30's. Sure, it was ok of him to lie to her about his age. She was angry when she found out from what she told me. But hey...whats a little age difference! I guess age matters when you consider this man ended up telling me he wanted to crossdress and have me penetrate him with a sex toy. His theory of a mouth is a mouth smacked of on the fence gaydom. When he left me again for the now 21 yr old boxing student, I found out through some mutual friends of hers that he made her dress him up and mess with his hiney. Here's the sickpart: I asked him why he said he never did that with anyone b4 when he had...he said he was embarrASSED. Apprently NOT TOO MUCH THOUGH! After the drama of his leaving for the umpteenth time and me saying NO MORE, he decides to inform me he is gay. Then later it was bisexual. Then its back to straight. Never mind the two male sexual encounters this pig had with a priest when he was 16, and another with a male family friend of his own age. SURE YOU HATE THE MALE BODY HONEY! So here is this pig of a so called MAN who doesnt know his sexual orientation and doesnt reveal what a psycho pervert he is (yes, this includes hitting during sex and choking)on match.com I feel extremely frightened for the women who think he is a gem because though his financial circumstances suck along with living with MOTHER, they will be hurt. I wrote to match.com to let them know this pig impregnanted me and left me to rot. His account was active within the wk...and I was pregnant by this scuz only a few mos ago. They wont do a damned thing about it. No woman will know what hit her. He is a charmer who is capable of lying through his teeth to get his needs met. Money, attention and sexual perversions are his enticement. In fact, he told me, If I were using you, you wouldnt know what hit you. Nice huh? Match.com needs to pay attn to the pigs on their site.

Oh what a tangled web we weave....I can't believe Match just sent me my top matches and number one was this mean sob that I actually met thru work. Could they be more wrong???? Of course, he is a big, fat lair - and I mean that literally. If above average body type is looking like you are 12 months pregnant with quads, then maybe he is. If moderate political views are listening to Rush type programs and going onto the Grudge report for your news, all the while stating that he voted for Nadar - dumb but not evil - well, then he's sitting right on that fence. And if being a cigar aficionado means smoking a pack or more a day (around someone who has asthma) and smoking something else for fun, well slap my ass!)

Match.com is getting too expensive, I paid for more than two years when it was $100/yr, and even though I didn't find Ms Right I definitely got my money's worth, I met lots of nice ladies, many of whom I'm still friends with. I spent far more on eHarmony and got virtually nothing in return, the only site which is even a better value than Match.com is HotorNot.com because it's *so* fun and only charges $7/month, and you only pay when someone that you're interested in also wants to email you. So, after paying many, many sites I recommend Match.com and HotorNot.com and warn everyone to steer WAY clear of eHarmony.com.

I was wondering if anyone else had the same experience I did. I had my profile marked as hidden on Match.com for sometime and, in fact, it was hidden. However, I just became aware that it somehow became visible again without my consent. Has this happened to anyone else?

I've been on Match several times over the last few years and have met mostly nice men. However, there's that fringe. Years ago a list of wierdos with stories floated around on Matchmaker. It was good advice to help you benefit from other's bad experiences. Does anyone know if such a thing on Match.com??

I have tried a number of dating sites over the years and I have had the best luck on Match.com. The site's relative superiority can be mostly attributed to its volume and stability. I am a middle aged man and I have also found that the male to female ratio is a little better on this site than some others. Of course, I haven't always developed something with the women I've met from this site but I've found most of them to be women of reasonable quality. Of course, the frustrations with on-line dating (particularly from the male point of view) are experienced as much here as anywhere. But, at least the selection of women is larger, more active, and of better than average quality. There seem to be more photos here than on other sites, too. Perhaps many women on multiple sites regard this one as their main site and make a little more effort here.

The guys are there just to get laid! Beware, ladies. It's either total dorks or horny losers.

If people were really looking for the right person to share and be happy with fine but all it is on Match.com is a person looking for sex...Hell you don't need a computer for that...Web site is not worth a dam...they should call it Condum.com...

Poor customer service - Cut my membership off when al I wanted was to end my subsciption. Felt like my profile was in a dark corner - hard to use and understand-

It is with interest that I read in this review some rather disparaging comments about those of us who use on-line dating/matching services. The implication is that we are social misfits, who, owing to some sort of emotional pathology, go on-line to search for something apporoximating a real relationship. I suspect that these comments are the product of very young minds. When one is 25, it is quite easy to find someone to have a relationship with. Most of the 20-something crowd is single and looking. The number of available potential partners drops rapidly in the 30s and, by the time you are in your 40s, there are even fewer. Not only that, by the time you are in your late 30s or 40s, you are so busy with career and living a real life, that it is very difficult to connect with potential partners. Consider that most young people meet their potential parters in such venues as school, parties and bars/clubs. Well, those of us who are older don't go to school, and if we did, we are much older than most of the people in the classroom. At parties, most of the revelleres are married. And we learned long ago that you won't find a quality person in a bar or club, since party animals might provide a night or two of carnal bliss, they don't make good mates. Someone suggested churches, which is fine if you are religious and seeking a like-minded mate, but, again, when you are older, most people church-goers in your age range are married. How about the office? That used to be an option, but nowaddays, it's too risky, since you might just find yourself slapped with a sexual harasseement complaint. And, again, if you are older, you are probably in management, so co-workers are out of the question. So some of us have decided to seek potential partners theough on-line services. We don't have the time to be running the streets looking for a mate. The problem is that the younger people have turned the on-line services into cyber meat markets, behaving on-line the same way they do in the bars and clubs. For others, it's just a game; they like screwing around with people's emotions, leading them on when they have no intention of having a relationship. Hence, many on-liners, especially women, quickly become jaded about the process. Match.com is particularly bad about this. A woman friend of mind says about Match.com: The guys are there to get laid and the girls are there to find someone to pick up the dinner tab. My experince with Match is pretty much in keeping with her observation. However, I have meet a couple of nice women on Match. It, like the other on-line services, has it's drawbacks, but it sure beats hitting on women in bars.