Remember the Eagles song "Already Gone"?I am true blue and expect the same from a partner.

Trust is not there from the getgo.... obvious red flags here.

This goes right along with the whole respect and trust issue. If someone can't be with ONLY me; then they can take it somewhere else. I don't need the hassle or the risk of STD's (if this were a sexual relationship).

I never got this one. If you just met then maybe there are other people, but if in a relationship then sorry, you get the boot..."secretely" seeing someone else also means you are a liar too...we already covered that one!

hopefully i wouldn't be dating someone thats doing this cuz this is just wrong and makes no sense except to show what a con artist someone can be

They are gone.

If after you've committed yourself to a realtionship and given up things in your life so you can do so, it might be a good idea to dump someone who doesn't have the same respect for you.

why would you want to stay with somone who is cheating on you?

This could really be a problem if he continues to secretly date someone else after you are married!

never happen to me you need to keep the woman satisfied soshe don't have to go anywhere else.

My girlfriend in college used to do this. We had an understanding that we would only date each other at the time. Yet, whenever there was a spring break or Christmas vacation, or any other reason for her to return to California, she would ALWAYS sneak off with someone else - then lie about it to me later. If you can't trust someone more than that, then this is the best reason to stop the relationship.

If she's secretly dating someone else then I have no problem. If I find out that she's dating someone else then I have problem. What I would do would depend on the situation. If it was a girl who I'd just begun dating then I would either call and tell her it's over or I'd just stop calling. If I was in love with this girl, I'd be real angry at first, then I'd feel distraught and want to puke. I would wait until I was in good form to talk and then I would have to sit down with her, tell her what I knew, listen to what she had to say, and make my decision from there.

I'm not a jealous guy at all. When I have a girlfriend, I don't really care if she has other guyfriends or whatever. But I wouldn't like her going out and dating someone else NOT because it would make me jealous, rather it's a respect issue. I don't want to be the guy holding the bag on that one; I'm no fool! Additionally, I find that openness is the key to a healthy relationship, so I would say she's out if she's secretly dating someone.

Well, maybe not for the dating stage, but if you're in a serious relationship (the ones where you're exclusively dating each other and that's it), then yeah, it's a pretty good reason to leave 'em. If it's not part of the deal, though (as in, you're just dating, there is no implied exclusivity), then that distinction must be made.