I have a bias on this one because my ex-wife relegated me to the sidelines after our first child was born. She was the expert. She was the one who read all the books. And she was the one that took my three daughters 2000 miles away from me. Results? Eldest and middle child on heroin. Eldest child killed in a preventable accident at age 22. I now have contact with only the youngest daughter, who lives in France. A mother's brainwashing her children for revenge against the other parent will pretty much ruin lives, namely, the childrens'. It is an evil that has far-reaching effects for a long, long time.