Good communicator

I definitely think I have the communication thing in the bag - naturally. My boyfriend isn't one to open up. Or if he's mad, you'll just know from the cold shoulder but he's not going to sit down and talk to you - until he met me! It's easy for us to talk and I can tell him anything, which is something that I've never done, ever. With anyone. Even if I'm mad at him, it's easy for us to sit down and be serious with one another and talk about it. I feel better when it's over and it makes me feel good about us. If you can't communicate, then it's not going to last.

I remember being in a logging camp, a young chokerman of twenty, sitting around shooting the shit with the rest of the crew at dinner.  Us young guys were talking about women, and the physical attributes thereof.   An older guy (forty or so) said: "You young guys will learn that what's really important in life is getting a woman you can talk to."There was silence for a moment, and then I said:"They can talk?"

Communication is the basis of a relationship without communication there is no relationship.

I know this is supposed to be important but I'm still really intersted in meeting that mate with the natural sense of when to start being horny.

Most of my wives were good communicators. "Get the hell out of here" is rather direct and to the point.

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I don't want to play "Guess what I mean by...". I always lose.

If we can't communicate to eachother then there's no point in even seeing eachother. :(

This is another important one. If you want to have a long-term relationship with that person, then communication is a must. How else are you going to get to know that person if you don't communicate?

Very important with a relationship.

It is good to be able to express exactly what you are saying with maximum clarity. People who are not good communicators may come across as being rude or may not know how to say something in a diplomatic way. I wouldn't want someone who was rude, but eloquent and clear speech is not the most important characteristic. But if they are the sort of person who tells you exactly how they are feeling, this isn't such a bad thing, as long as they are nice about it.

My last girlfriend was more of an introvert than I am. Not a good combination, especially if you want to go out and be social with other couples.

Yes, very important. No secrets.

Good communicator in that she's honest with her feelings? Yeah, this is definitely a positive; I don't like the feeling that a woman is hiding something from me that I should know before pursuing a relationship. Good communicator as if she's eloquent in her speech? Well, I really don't care about that.

Communication is another one of my must haves. I've had problems with good communication in a relationship in the past, and I've learned from my mistakes. Me and BEn talk on the phone every night almost. If he can get the phone from his brother who is also communicating with my best friend on a romantic level.

Uh-huh.

Is it just me or am I way off line here? That when someone asks you out you expect them to get back in touch with you and at least set up a date instead of leaving it up in the air. And if for any reason, you happened to piss this person off, you would expect that they'd be a good enough communicator to tell you what happened. But no, instead they go on assuming you already know the reason and just leave it at that and wait for you to apologize. Well hey, maybe it is just me.

Communication is a very important thing in building a relationship. Without communicating with each other, a couple will never truly know each other and learn to accept each other for who they truly are. It bothers me, and I've seen this happen so many times, espescially with women, where they will give us the silent treatment and refuse to tell us what is wrong. That causes tension and that will cause serious bumps in the road, because if I feel that you feel you can't talk to me about something, then there will be a problem.

I think it's important to know that communication is something both parties would need to work at, and different people require different amounts and types of attention and communication. Hints typically don't work--if you know your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't a mind reader, don't expect them to learn how to anytime soon. And, yes, sometimes when you ask a guy what they're feeling or thinking about and they say "nothing", they actually MEAN it. Sometimes the guy (or girl) is bad with words, and what they say comes out wrong (i.e. "If we're in a plane, and it's going down, I wanna push you out the back", and not adding " . . . . when we get closer to the ground and thus have a better chance of survival,"; it's the difference between a bizarre death wish and a sweet gesture of trying to protect you). If you know this, ask the person to clarify what they said if something seems to come out wrong; chances are, they didn't mean to piss you off.

This is so very, very important - especially when there are issues that need to be sorted out. You may know your partner very well (or at least you should do) but we aren't mindreaders. As I said to my ex fiance when we were still together (and I still say to him now) I don't know what he is thinking, I may know him better than anyone else, but i still need some input from him so we can talk and figure things out so we don't have any major arguements or problems. We could have avoided so many difficulties if he had just spoken to me and had been honest about everything.

Nothing is more frustrating than somebody who can't communicate. They have trouble expressing their feelings so it's hard to tell what they think about things. Lack of communication leads to confusion, and confusion leads to trouble, trouble leads to arguments, lack of communication skills causes the arguments to be even worse which then leads to a breakup. It's a rather nasty chain reaction.

Coomunication is the foundation of the relationship.

i think communication is vital, but i know plenty of couples that are definitely lacking ideal communication and they're married or practically married.

I cannot stress how important good communication is in a relationship. Unless couples communicate, there is no way the relationship can progress unless it's based on something like sex or money. If the person never tells you how they feel, or if the relationship is working for them or not, the relationship is doomed. Both people in the relationship will be unhappy too. I have been in a relationship with someone who never communicated, and I spent the entire month or so I dated him wondering what was going on in his head since he never told me anything. I'd ask him questions and he'd respond with one word answers or sometimes dodged the question. How was I to know he wasn't just using me for something? You can't build a relationship if you don't know anything about the person you're with.

if you can't work stuff out how are you going to stay together..... exactly

Communication is what a relationship is about. If you don't have that, your "relationship" is based on physical, and you don't even really know the person. As far as I'm concerned, it's number one in the priority list-- because without it, you're dating just a body. And things fall apart down the road when you hit what would otherwise be just a bump.

One the most important. No communication or little of it, leads to BAD relationship. Gotta talk about things and learn eachothers feelings twords issues.