Reasons for turning somebody down for a date

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    kraduate

    Fri Oct 09 2009

    I've never turned anyone down for a date. And not because I was desperate! I really believe in getting to know a person before judging them. Then if you aren't interested, just tell the person you have nothing in common. I'm married now and so glad I don't have to deal with this anymore.

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    djahuti

    Fri Oct 09 2009

    I'd say 4 and a half stars.Hopefully,we're all kind enough not to tell someone they're too fat,boring,ugly or obnoxious for a date.

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    sk4u2009

    Mon Mar 23 2009

    nope, usually i tell the truth

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    astromike

    Mon Mar 23 2009

    Well....the truth hurts, so why not? If they are smart they will get the hint.

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    jaime8376

    Mon Sep 22 2008

    I'm married

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    genghisthehun

    Wed Sep 03 2008

    Why hurt feelings when a bald-faced lie will at least save face?

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    angie8673

    Fri Aug 29 2008

    u are just not my type

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    cherol

    Wed Aug 20 2008

    ha just avoid the person, no need to lie then. Thats my way! I dont really date people. But i might lie.

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    meghan861

    Fri Aug 08 2008

    I hate letting people down.. :(

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    glenn777

    Fri Aug 08 2008

    I'm sorry, Piggy, I already have a date.

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    falling_4_him

    Wed Aug 06 2008

    I wouldn't know I haven't ever turned anyone down. :D

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    twitchin_monkey

    Mon Aug 04 2008

    you mean she didn't have to take her dog to the vet because it ate her shampoo and had a severe allergic reaction?

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    valkyrievoice

    Mon Aug 04 2008

    Yeah, I'm not too good at it. Especially if it entails anything drawn out. I don't like "HAVING" to explain anyway. They should be able to accept "No" for an answer.

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    datz_chinkzz_2_uu_babii_boo

    Sun Aug 03 2008

    im married. Thats my lie.

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    hiedie6c

    Sat Aug 02 2008

    I am married

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    damn_it_its_me_waynefcgngr

    Fri Aug 01 2008

    i dont like to hurt a girls feelings unless she deserves it, so yaa a lil

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    scarletfeather

    Wed Jul 30 2008

    This is a situation where if you're a halfway decent person, you have to lie.I always said I was  busy, or if the guy was really pushy, I would tell him I had a boyfriend. I always felt like a real sleaze when I dragged out the boyfriend lie, because usually it was just that: a frickin' lie!

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    paula5816

    Tue Jul 29 2008

    I would never want to hurt someone intentionally so I do try to be gentle, but there have been a few guys who were a little full of themselves and certainly needed to be told that they wouldn't have a shot with me if they were the last man on earth regardless of how good looking they were...the weren't good liking if you know what I mean....

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    kristyn718

    Tue Jul 29 2008

    I might tell a little fib...just so i don't hurt the other person's feelings...what can i say..i like to be nice...

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    brenda

    Mon Jul 28 2008

    Sometimes this is well warranted. After all, people can be scary.

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    alysec55

    Sun Jul 27 2008

    Okay I have lied when telling someone why I didnt want to be their girlfriend..but it was either that or hurt their feelings and I think saying no hurt their feelings enough.

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    jennifer

    Sun Jul 27 2008

    I dont lie cause this usually doesnt happen to me....

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    ridgewalker

    Sun Jul 27 2008

    It's okay to lie, if the lie is less offensive than the truth. Go for the laugh...

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    lauramanaen

    Fri Jul 25 2008

    Again you don't want to hurt their feelings unless they are stalking you and then you let them have it .

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    irishgit

    Thu Mar 08 2007

    You're trying to tell me that she wasn't really called by NASA to be on the next Shuttle Launch, aren't you?

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    molfan

    Tue Jan 23 2007

    it has been a very long time ago.but it was not as if they were beating down the door to date me anyway.I guess i would tell a white lie to not hurt someone's feelings. but like last messenger said it would have been written on my face anyway.I am glad I am not a part of that anymore hubby and I will be married 25 years this April.

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    frankswildyear_s

    Tue Jan 23 2007

    Hasn't been a big issue for me, I was usually so desperate for a date that I blurted it out first, then gave the subject of my invitation a list of reasons to decline. Fortunately one of them went out with me anyway.

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    lastmessenger3

    Mon Jan 22 2007

    I don't think I have to, it's written all over my face.

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    kolby1973

    Thu Jan 18 2007

    I never lie to someone about this, there is no point in it. If I don't care for the person I just flat tell him...hell no. I am not going to waste my time on someone that I know I would never mesh with and I tell him so. If he cries about it...then he wasn't a real man to begin with...

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    clumsyninja

    Thu Jan 18 2007

    I've had to. I try not to. I'm all for a bit of tact when it comes to treating a person with decency. I would never want to hurt somebody just because I personally don't think they are appealing enough for me to date again. If they are treating me crappy to begin with, then I might give as much as I get.

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    numbah16tdhaha

    Mon Mar 06 2006

    You gotta be polite sometimes...

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    beachgirl

    Sat Mar 04 2006

    I happen to think this is okay. There is no reason to tell them the real reason if it's going to hurt them. Some people's self-esteem is already so low, they don't need any extra help in that department. Be NICE, it's okay!

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    historyfan

    Thu Mar 02 2006

    Yeah, this happens and unfortunately, it's usually the fault of the person doing the lying.

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    trebon1038

    Thu Mar 02 2006

    Im usually honest here but I have lied to a couple of people over the years that would easily had their feelings hurt. They were both people I liked but not wanting to date and I ran into them pretty regularly so I just told them I had other plans. (Ok, beat me if you must)

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    vudija

    Thu Mar 02 2006

    I've never turned down a date; I have given every person to ask, at least one chance. After that, it was always mutual if a second date would be an option or not, so I never had to worry about turning someone down for a second.

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    kamylienne

    Thu Mar 02 2006

    The rare occasion some guy asks me for my number nowadays, I let 'em know I'm married, which is true. But I'm thankful that it oftentimes saves me from the embarassment of letting them know that I wouldn't be interested in them, anyway. It's a lot easier for everyone involved.