Being a parent

Item added by minkey. Added on 09/14/2008
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minkey
01/07/2019

Being a parent 4

Still pretty new at the game, but I can comment on part of this. Being a bit older as a new dad (I was 36 when my son was born, 38 when my daughter was born) I'm in a much better position pound for pound to be a dad and a provider. My patience has improved, life knowledge, life situation...and possibly more important than anything else, I picked someone who right now looks to be a strong mother and partner for the long haul. I can't say for certain that would be true had I even decided to have kids 10 years ago.

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LillyScott
03/30/2011

Being a parent 2

it never gets easier. the worries and the happy moments just change.

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edt4
05/23/2010

Being a parent 3

I'm not a parent...never intend to be, never want to be...so I don't really know. I will say that I respect those people who can do it successfully, because I know it has to be the hardest job in the world, and it lasts 24 x 7 for at least 18 years. To help create a healthy, well-adjusted adult in this complex, difficult age is an achievement indeed.

My own personal feeling is that too many people do it because they feel that society dictates that they should, or because they feel they're "entitled" to experience parenthood. I see far too many people who never should have become parents. Let's face it; the prisons are full of their progeny.

I have a neighbor...a single woman...who makes "Snooki" from the "Jersey Shore" look like a class act. She has a son who is 6 or 7 years old, and he wanders the neighborhood with a pacifier perpetually stuck into his mouth. When angered, frustrated, or lost...which is often...her voice can be heard echoing through the neighborhood, "GET BACK IN DAT FUCKIN' HOUSE!!! WHAT DA FUCK ARE YA DOIN'?!?!?" Hubert Selby could have written a chapter in one of his books about her. The kid's father shows up once in awhile to play basketball with the kid. When I mentioned once to another neighbor that I was considering calling DYFS on her, she replied, "They've already been called on her more than once." Not that any of those phone calls have ever accomplished anything. I fear for that kid.

Another parent who probably should never have become a parent is an old friend of mine. He and his wife are chronic alcoholics and drug addicts. Their son, basically a sweet kid, is obsessed by toy cars to the point where it becomes annoying and then alarming, rude, and unable to socialize with other kids. He's just been diagnosed as autistic, and while I sympathize with my friend and his wife, who genuinely love the kid, it's infuriating for me to think that neither one of them is...in my opinion, anyway...qualified to be a parent. They recently went to a resort with the kid in the Poconos, and got annihilated drunk. My friend told me later that as they stumbled up to their room with the kid, another guest, watching them, was overheard to remark to his wife, "I feel so sorry for that kid." My friend tells me that that remark bothered him, and maybe it did. But, so far, it hasn't bothered him enough for him to pursue sobriety.

I respect people who know they're not qualified to take on the enormous responsibility of being a parent, and therefore don't father a kid--- I'm one of them. For all I know, parenting does become easier the older you get. By that time, though, the kid you fathered might already be an adult--- a fucked-up, dysfunctional one, at that.

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Firemoth
05/23/2010

Being a parent 3

At least at this point it hasn't. I've got a 20yr old daughter and a 4yr old son and I seem to be taking turns banging my head against wall over something one of them has done. Maybe when my daughter moves out or gets married it'll get easier but not right now.

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FranksWildYear s
05/23/2010

Being a parent 3

If you define it as drudgery from the outset, it ain't likely to get any better as time progresses. If you see it as a part of life's journey, then strap yourself in and enjoy the ride. There'll be great parts, tough parts, wonder, frustration, hard work, disappointments and rewards. Do your best to make sure eveyone is involved, parents, kids, extended family and friends of all the generations. Take some time for yourself, but don't be selfish. Laugh.

Here endeth the sermon.

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Gris
05/23/2010

Being a parent 3

Man, I really hope so.

My boys are young now so a lot of it is fun. They are also at an age where they don't yet know that I don't know what the Hell I'm doing. I have a feeling that when they're in their Teens, it's going to get a lot Harder. I don't look forward to the day that they Figure out I'm an idiot and they're smarter.

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twansalem
05/22/2010

Being a parent 3

I can't say. I'm only 13 hours into this new gig as a dad. Mrs. Twan and Little Twanette are currently sleeping, and while I should probably be getting my rest as well, the hospital has free wireless internet.

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frogio
02/20/2010

Being a parent 4

The other day I barked at my kid for jumping on my bed and she asked me why I was so mean. I smiled and said it was her mom's fault.

She hugged me.

Seeing she just turned 23, I should of used that line years ago.

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cyclee
11/10/2008

Being a parent 1

After a certain age, you start being good at being the grandparents and spoil your grand kids rotten.

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pugwash01
09/15/2008

Being a parent 5

I'm at the stage were my child is only three, but I'm in agreement with Randyman. I know that I will be the parent for as long as I live and I would not have it any other way! I love my daughter and I want to be there for her, not to smother her, but to do right by her! (As my parents are for me!!) Do I think it will get easier NO, probably allot harder, but I'm up for the challenge!

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Randyman
09/15/2008

Being a parent 3

Years ago I thought it would be easier when the kids grew up. But that old cliche"You never stop being a parent, you never stop worrying" is so true.

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