Prevention is key here. About 50 percent of the problems we have in life we don't look for. We get sick, have accidents, have loved ones die. Those are the things that we just have to deal with in our own way. However, many times people look for problems in their lives, just to shake up the pot or whatever other sick reason. At the end of the day, people who do this end up unsatisfied with their lives because they overwhelmed themselves with problems they didn't need to have in the first place. People who look for problems do so because they need to fill their lives with something, even if its something negative: it could be a bad relationships, sketchy business ventures, unnecessary arguments with loved ones.


Resolving conflicts is indeed a trickier matter, because many times we have a lot invested in our positions and are therefore not willing to make the concessions necessary to come to a solution. What we fear the most is coming to a deal that might not be a good one. The feeling of being humiliated is one which motivates such behavior. Indeed, it is easier said than done to resolve conflicts, but I find that ultimately, it's much more effective to put your side and the other sides interests on the table and negotiate from there. Positional negotiation, going by numbers alone, places too much emphasis on you lose this, and I gain this. Thats something you have to move away from if you expect to come to a good deal. Understanding the other side usually helps in coming to an agreement. But first the parties have to be willing to talk--that's the difficult proposal.

The way easier to say then to do. In a conflict, every person feels like he is right, go deal with it. Not easy, trust me, somehow I am always in the middle of one.

if you are capable of doing this then sure its a great quality. the world is always in need of those with this quality. personally i suck at it. i seem to make matters worse. im almost always better if i just kept my mouth shut