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It must be true. When I was younger it happened ALL the time. Just not always for a long time. But who says that the key element of love is it's duration? Is there any reason that the feeling of something perfect and new and exciting fails to meet the definition of love? If the definition requires that it there only be one love and that it last a lifetime, then you'll never know whether or not you experienced love until you die. That's a ridiculous standard to hold someone to and can only result in a life of disappointment and misery. And what the hell would the point of that be?

This has only happened to me as far as cats are concerned. With human, I wouldn't call any of my experiences as love at first sight. More like obsession at first sight.

No I definately believe in LUST at first sight, which is what most folks who claim to believe in love at first sight get confused by.

Not that one can't turn into the other, but love is way to complex to be determined on first sight

I first set eyes on my wife on October 19, 1974. The story has been told and retold to my kids and grandkids. I saw her at an after hours club in Norwalk, California. I asked her to dance but was too shy to talk. I think she sensed this. She walked up to me and asked me if she could stand by me, some guy was bothering her. I said okay. We started to talk and here we are thirty four years later. I knew without a doubt that she was going to be my wife the minute I saw her. Then I made it happen. Do I believe in love at first sight? yes Corny but true.

No. There is no such a thing as love at first sight. There is however lust at first sight, which is something totally different.

Sure. You betcha. Just like I belive in divorce at final sight.

I, at first gave this a one star but then thought, that's not true. The moment my child was born, it was love at first sight. As for "adult" love ~ no! I believe that is more like lust at first sight.

For me I'm a different guy, and you must be shocked when I say that, I can love the that understand my decrees, and follow my principles. A small mistake may take the tarin off the rail, and that's the end of stories. Just like when I say yes, it's yes, and when it's no, it's NO. iN 1999, I used to work with this lady from Somalia, a pure muslim, beautiful when really talking about beauties. She wanted me to become a muslim, just because of her, and be married conditionally in case?. Homer said NO...that was the end of the stories....just like when a military commander said, ne, he really means NO, if the the command is breached. Love a person you have same ideas, same values, moral standards, virtues, and understanding. Homer loves a christain woman, and I smell her scent like a garden ross. I think, I could be a hard guy, and hardlined intellect. Additionally, I love a person who is honest, unconfusive, straightforward like me, and not that much stupid when coming to reasoning things. A material conditional love?. That's not my song, and I don't sing along with such elements.

I know "lust at first sight" exist but not to sure about "love at fist sight."

Meh, I have a hard time with love, much less at first sight.

People get lust confused with love at first sight.

I think many times love at first sight, may look like love only because you are physically attracted to something in another person that you really like. True love becomes love over time, not in instant.

Not sure, but I unquestionably believe in lust at first sight.

Thought it was a load of garbage until one of my ex-boyfriends told me about how his Mother and Father met. Within two weeks of meeting they married and all those people around them with theories of their marriage not lasting were wrong as after almost twenty-seven years together their still happily married with two sons.

Yes, but it's based on physical attraction more than anything else. Every relationship has that spark that gets it going, to an extent, everyone can relate to this. Some don't 'get' it until later, but in other instances, the attraction is instant. From that initial spark comes a more substantial relationship. Deep love doesn't happen overnight, but that seed can be certainly laid early on.

It depends. For some, yes. For me, no. I don't believe in love at first sight. If I saw some beach broad in some pink bikini and huge breast implants, I won't fall in love. I might look at her with lust, but not love her. You have to know the person first. ... You can't say, Wow, she's hot! I'm in love! Let's get married!

No, and here's why. What do you base love at first sight on, physical apperance. (And don't give me any of that, I felt her spirit crap.) Well, since when was love based on physical appearance? Are you telling me that you are so shallow you would base something so wonderful as love on the decieving foundation of another being's outward apperance? And here I was thinking love was about compatibility, selflessness, and personality. No, instead there's this love at first sight theory that tells me all love entails is physical attraction to the opposite sex. There's no falling in love in with a guy slowly, but surely, no first kiss that tells you he's the one. Nope, it's just thinking, hey, that guys hot. I am in love with him. Great, I have a heck of a lot to look forward to if that's what love is.

What have we learned from our friends Romeo and Juliet? It's called lust.

Lust at first sight, sure.

I believe in love at first sight, because like Flick01, I've experienced it. That brief moment of eye contact in the aisle of a busy store, when you can feel your heart stop and start again, and you feel as though you've met that person somewhere, in some other time. I'm not sure if I believe in soul mates or past lives or anything like that, but I think it's possible to love a person you've never talked to before.

No. I believe in lust at first sight, but LOVE is a different matter entirely. Love means knowing someone's flaws and accepting that person anyway, warts and all.

No...it's too easy. Lust at first sight maybe, but love comes from knowing that person, inside and out and loving what they bring to your life.

Love at first sight is an excuse people use who sleep with each other the first night.

The attraction that occurs in a love at first sight relationship is pretty significant. Though I agree with everyone else that love is more than superficial, this instant attraction can lead to a very serious and intimate relationship easily. If both parties feel that love at first sight feeling, then a good sense of chemistry is built and clearly there is strong physical attraction, which is a good basis for starting a more serious relationship. But love at first sight that actually matures into real love seems more a matter of luck and coincidence than anything else.

In the strict sense of the term love at first sight I have to agree with the others that it is a physical attraction and true love for a person has to be based on more. But twice in my life I have come as close as a person can possibly come to love at first sight. The last time it happened I was standing in line in a convenience store along with about 4 other customers. I stop at this store on a regular basis but this time there was a new girl behind the counter, a young woman who looked as if she was in her early 20s. I thought that she was attractive but it wasn't her looks that won my heart. A woman who was outside at the gas pumps was having some kind of difficulty with her purchase. The girl at the counter went to the intercom and said You have to push the button, honey. It was as if I had been struck by lightning. I could tell from the way that she spoke to the woman that this was a truly beautiful girl. I find it difficult to put into words exactly what I saw in her just from those few words because let's face it, that's not exactly a profound statement. I suppose what struck me was that there was no sarcasm in her voice, but instead a sense of concern and sympathy. I could read her personality and the warmth she had inside of her just from the way that she spoke those few words. It was as if everything that she is inside somehow managed to come to the surface with just one simple sentence. When she walked away from the intercom to come back to the register she did not look at those of us who were on line and give us a look that said Boy, is that woman a jerk or what? She doesn't even know enough to push the button. Instead she glanced out the window to see if the woman was still having trouble. There was no sense of she sure is stupid or anything of that nature in her voice or the look on her face. As I stood in line and watched her interact with other customers I felt that my evaluation was correct and soon I found myself standing face to face with a truly beautiful girl who was not only pretty, but had the kind of heart and personality that I understood, and loved. If you have never had something like this happen to you I don't know how to describe it. I guess the only thing I can say is that if it ever should happen, you'll know it..............no one will have to tell you. Unfortunately there was a big difference in our ages so I only made polite conversation when I paid for my items. Something must have happened because within two weeks she was no longer working at the store. She'll never know that somewhere out there a guy was able to look inside of her heart from just a simple sentence that she spoke, and fell in love with her. I suppose that someday she'll find a young man who loves her and she'll probably get married. If that should happen I hope that he is able to see what I saw in her, and realize that he is the luckiest guy on the face of the Earth that someone so beautiful would love him in return. But I think that for people like her, loving comes easy.

There is no such thing as love at first sight. Love is something developed. It's a relationship between two people that can stand the test of time. It's always growing and adapting. The only thing you can get at first sight is outward attraction. When you pass a hott guy (or girl), and you see their face, you might think that it's love at first sight because you are immediatly attracted to them and you think, oh this must be the one. But, love is something that takes time. You can't even be dating someone for two weeks and then suddenly say you love them. Love is a process. You can't rush it. Because once you lose it, it's gone and you can't get it back.

Nope, you have to get to know somebody before you can love them.

love at first sight is actully the feeling of when you think something inside you could say this may be the one, but I don't think that in the blink of an eye prince charming will appear. and as for Enkidu, with girls it is a diffrent process.

yeah, it's called the first time you hold one of your children in your arms. Even though I don't have kids many of my older friends do and they fall in love with their baby after months of complaining about the fact that their lives are over because they now have the responsibility of a child. There are many different ways to love.

No it is not possible. Love at first sight is basing your love on looks, love you have to know the person.

Would you believe in a love at first sight/Yes I'm certain that it happens all the time... If you don't know which Beatles song this lyric came from, I'm not telling you!

Love is developed over time. If you dont know a person, how can you love her/him? Love at first sight is called infatuation. It happens because you seem to be physically attracted to this person. In very rare cases infatuation leads to love. If you want to become lovers, become friends first, as you know this person, you will learn to accept his/her flaws, I mean afterall nobody's perfect. You wont be surprised most lovers were good friends, they became lovers simply because they knew each other very well, and even if one of them make a mistake, the other would accept it as is. If you can live through that, then the term Love at First Sight does not exist.

No, it isn't possible. There is such a thing as intense physical attraction at first sight, but this is a far sight from love. Of course, love often starts out as intense physical attraction, so whatever it is that occurs at first sight can evolve into love over time, but the feeling that you experience the first time you see that person isn't love. Love is a lot more complex than that. Love takes time to develop. If it burns too quickly it will smolder and die too soon. That's the kind of love that Shakespeare and Shelley and their ilk used to write about, that intense, mad, desperate idealization of love, the love of the knight-errant for his virtuous lady (who he's probably never even had a conversation with, just seen in a tower window looking melancholy). That isn't love. Love is being two halves of the same whole, needing that person the way you need oxygen, wanting more and better for them than you would ever wish for yourself, loving them as much at their worst as at their very best. This isn't the kind of thing that occurs at a glance. At least not for me, or for the mentally and emotionally stable. Sorry, I guess I'm just not romantic.

At first sight...I would call that lust or attraction...Love needs to be built.

Um... well, I know about getting a hard-on at first sight, but I don't think that's LOVE, per se. Love develops over a rather longer time, but I sure know how the process starts.

No I think it takes time to get to know one another for true love to build. It would be hard to know what someone is like by first sighting. and dangerous too.

Most of my friends think I'm a pessimist for saying this, but no, I don't believe in love at first sight--appearances don't make for a great relationship on its own. How can you know someone's personality just by a moment's glance? You feel pretty awful after telling someone How could you love me, you don't even know me, but it's true.