The worse thing a man or anyone else, for that matter, can be is a self centered jerk.

Clearly this explains why so many women have made sex videos with Rick Salomon.

I think that this is one of the most important qualities that a man can show to his wife/girlfriend, and of course, vice versa. Where can we go wrong if we show a little bit of kindness and caring to one another?

Yeah he has to be nice!!

Don't get me wrong, but I agree a real man is caring and kind in moderation, but at the same time women love those bad boys, not for the rest of their lives, but women for a fact as much as we try to deny it are attracted to bad boys.  The nice guys in some way always seem to come last.

I do not not like wimpy men at all but there has to be a balance of these qualities in that bad boy along with those more macho tendencies because we still need him to care about us and himself and others. I could never tolerate a pushover. he would bore me to death but neither could I tolerate someone who didn't care and was mean.

givng and caring but steadfast in his own principles and nobodies chump.

Randyman, were you once a member of the clergy? Just kidding, I echo your sentiments wholeheartedly :)

Along with kindness and caring, I would add mercy, forgiveness and integrity. These are essential to being a man. It's these qualities that allow us to become good husbands, fathers and true friends. I think that this comes from strength and confidence in yourself.

Its important to care for others, period. Relationships do require that we are kind to each other. You may not have a sense of humor or a great physic, the ladies love a man who show tons of interest and HONESTLY cares about them and the relationship.

To me, this is what makes a real man because men are known as 'gentlemen.' Our Father in Heaven is kind and caring so why shouldn't men be. If a man is kind and caring, then their wife/girlfriend will be safe with him and know that he will provide for her and will never hurt her or wouldn't be the sort of man who just gets into fights. It is so unfortunate and really angers me that this characteristic is not the major thing that attracts a woman. It is intelligence and humor and confidence that a woman goes for. She isn't so much concerned with his character. It is mainly older woman that are more sensible like that and go for character.

I do agree with BIBLIOPHILE...who wants a wimp? AND...there's a difference between being kind/caring and being wimpish. BUT...if a man ain't kind to his momma, he ain't gonna be kind to you. Kindness and caring are very important!

Kindness and caring are very important, but I wouldn't want someone so nice they let people walk all over them. It is important that he care enough to be honest, and sometimes honesty doesn't sound kind.

This is one of the most important things to possess.

A trait I live by.

Swangmaster8 is everything a girl could ask for.

Your manhood is not your genitals--but in your mind, and in your heart. I take pride in being empathic, polite, and kind. Here's a (non-alcoholic) toast to the Man in Manners!

This is a great and important characteristic of a good man, but I'll have to disagree that it's what defines a man. If you want to get technical, anyone with a penis could be called a man, or at least male, but a distinction can be made between a man and someone who's just a guy. As far as I can tell, none of these items on this list define a man--how he looks, what he has, or how big things are don't define a man. What really defines a man, as opposed to just a male, is if he reacts to various situations with courage and responsibility.

Being kind and unselfish shows far more strength than some of the macho posturing bs I've seen.

A real man isn't just focused on himself;he thinks about others. My dad exemplifies these qualities. He is not selfish and has always put his family first.

i like to practice being this way often. i think we all know a kind and selfless person is more pleasent to be around than a mean person who will look at every flaw you have and value themselves over everything else in existance. i for 1 love to give to and help others when possible. even if i dislike them to an insane degree. i'm nice because i value the relationships i have with some important people i have in my life. i hope to see more people try being this way more often. i agree with chauncey it takes sacrifice to be a man.

Not only a strong measure of a man but a strong measure of a human being. It doesn't take a strong person to take vengeance against someone he/she perceives to have done wrong against him/her but it takes a strong person to feel pity.

Very important, must care about something other than himself.