this would be a problem if the kids had a problem with me. its an issue i wouldn't want to deal with.

I got a voice message from this girl who I've been seeing for a few weeks that said Hi I'm on my way to the airport to pick up my son. Lets do something together when you're done with work I played the message twice in disbelief, because not once were kids ever mentioned. I was contemplating what to do - call and ask wtf, or not call at all, but then I figured that maybe she got burnt by some guys in the past and it's a difficult thing for her to bring up. I figured I'd cut her some slack. Plus, I actually like the girl. So towards the end of the day I began to have a more open mind. I headed over to her place with a couple gifts for the kid - a mini cable car and some candies. Well it turns out that she said friend; she went to the airport to pick her friend. It was a little awkward, because I had a cable car and sour patch kids in my hand, but I breathed a sigh of relief. This experience did make me re-think the kids thing though. I would no longer walk the other way once I heard that kids were involved, I would give it a chance.

Kids have never been a problem for me. In some cases I got along better with the kids than I did with their mother.

as i put it so long ago you know this cookie has choc chips before you took it! if a man can't take my children he don't have to take me either!!! i had mt son long before any man, theirs a bond between a mother and her children and the same for a man. dump the man or woman if they don;t want your children as they are part of you and should come first over any one!!!!

I should never say never, but as it stands call me old-fashioned, I would find it very, very difficult to date a man with children, in fact its my top priority not to speaking from experience and observing friends who have had problems dating men with children. Not only do you have a child or children to deal with and learn to accept, but also the excess baggage in the form of the childs Mother and you have to get on with both or all if you expect the realtionship to last. If you get into a relationship with a person who has children just realise that you come second.

It's not fair to turn down what could be a wonderful relationship just because the other person has kids. Sure, it may cause some awkward moments or scheduling conflicts, but I've found that single dads are better listeners, more humble, and more considerate than many of the men out there without the so-called baggage of children from a previous relationship. Really, I love kids and it doesn't matter to me either way.

Not going to go out with a man who has kids, because I am not going to deal with the baby's mom. Sorry if I am selfish. But I have tried that before and it does seem to matter.

If the woman is right, why would it matter if she had a child?

I do not know if this could even be considered a turn-off or not, but I do know that if you are not ready to raise kids, then it is probably best if you do not date the person who has them. You need to be able to be a true role model to the children. However, there are some cases where you are in love with the person that has the children and you will have to find a way to be a good step parent. If this does happen, you need to do your best as the kids will be looking at you as a parental figure...