 | Ih8rateitall (5) 03/11/2006 |  To Canadssucks: What kind of ethnic group resist intellectual, academic, and philosophical assimilation into America? That doesn't make any sense.
The Chinese have faced blatant and terrible discrimination (check out some horrible CA laws in the late 19th and early 20th century) and deserve all of their rewards and accolades
-Well that's fair however you make it sound like the Chinese people deserve an award because some were treated unfairly. A lot of different ethnic groups were treated unfairly. Also, you gave Chinese people 5 stars. What makes Chinese people, or any other ethnic group any more important than other ethnic groups...mmm? Rating any ethnic group as "most important" seems kind of biased, no?
To kamylienne: I agree that we shouldn't judge people on skin tone. I understand that we all have different preferences, however if you think that the number of asian women and white male couples are all just a coincidence, I'd advise you and anyone else to check these sites out. Some of the info off this site backs up my argument. Kamylienne, your situation with your husband might actually be color blind, but I don't think that's the case with most asians. My personal opinion is that most asians date whites for "social status."
http://www.explode.com/rr/dating.shtml
http://www.asianweek.com/2000_02_03/feature_asianmale.html
Well my experience is the some asians have a superiority complex. Some are raised to think that their race is superior to others, that kind of thinking is wrong dudes. Most asian women don't even marry their own race, instead they marry whites, why I don't know but if I were a asian male, I'd feel pretty pissed. One of my friends who has a asian gf didn't even consider her a minority, he said she was anglo just like us. My theory is that asians are fascinated with the west or American culture or they hate their race? The number of asians getting eye widening surgeries is steadily increasing, but hey I'm not a expert, just an opinion. Different strokes for different folks I guess right dudes?
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 | kamylienne (84) 03/11/2006 |  I don't believe that any one group here is better than the other, but I would honestly LOVE to hear what those who rated the Chinese-Americans a 1 have to say for their reasoning.
I'm a first-generation-born American; my parents are both Chinese. I know what kind of crap they and the rest of my immigrant family had to go through to be successful. Nothing was handed to them. They didn't take anyone's jobs. And I'd have a serious issue with anyone who would like to claim otherwise.
I don't think that the Chinese influence on American culture is any more outstanding than any other culture here. I think people contribute to their society as individuals, not just a representative based on the color of their skin. So, what is it that people find to be so negative about the Chinese-Americans? If anyone's got a good reason, I'd sure like to hear it.
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And, in addition, to the interesting individual who had recently sent me a message: I'm amused that my race is causing you such pain. In short, you can kiss my "yellow" ass.
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As for marrying outside "our" race; I'm married, and yeah, he happens to be white. It kind of happens, when there aren't that many Chinese guys that I know of (that I'm not related to). And maybe it's about loving someone as a PERSON, not as a color. As far as Asian guys getting "pissed" that Asian-American women are marrying non-Asian guys (yeah, I've seen a few who have an issue with this), well, "Welcome to America", kids. Besides, there are plenty of Asian-American men who don't have a problem with going "outside their race".
Does this mean I "hate my race"? No, it means that I don't judge people based on something as trivial as skin tone. Ask yourself: Would you honestly think poorly of your spouse if the only thing different about them was their skin color? If you answered "yes", what does that say about your love?
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Thanks for the articles. However, each article emphasises this general idea: though Asian-American males sometimes feel a sense of insecurity and blame it on their race, as one writer put it, " I'm the only one to blame for feeding my own anxieties."
Yeah. Some Asian-Americans do hook up with people of other races for the wrong reasons. In my eyes, they are just as ridculous as those who refuse to hook up with anyone that isn't their same race. Either way, when 95% of your dating pool is of the other race, chances are, you're going to marry someone that's not the same race. Unless you're in California, where half of the Asian American population actually lives according to census statistics, you're not going to run into a whole lot of Asian people that you're not already related to.
Some men interviewed in the second article blame their self-esteem issue on their race. While that is sad, that is an individual thing. The latter part of the second article, titled "breaking stereotypes", follows two Asian-American men who are quite self-confident and have no problem hooking up. My male cousins, who were quite popular in school, definately didn't have anything holding them back. Their only problem, which these articles surprisingly do not address, is that the more traditional Chinese parents and grandparents look down upon their sons and grandsons marrying non-Asians; however, the females children, being of "less value" to these types, can marry whoever they want, since it really doesn't matter in their eyes. Maybe that has something to do with the difference in rates of interracial marriages with Asian men versus Asian women. (Sadly, my male cousins gave up their white and black girlfriends and, upon my grandparents' wishes, sought only Chinese girls who spoke Cantonese. Talk about "needle in the haystack".)
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 | CanadaSucks (50) 03/11/2006 | Smart and an incredible work-ethic. . .if you think they have a superiority complex that's because they study harder, get into better schools, and have better jobs than those who resist intellectual, academic, and philosophical assimilation into America. . .the Chinese have faced blatant and terrible discrimination (check out some horrible CA laws in the late 19th and early 20th century) and deserve all of their rewards and accolades. . .
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 | SZinHonshu (45) 08/10/2005 | This group is responsible for a good deal of development of the American West. Chinese-American Families, on the average, have higher household incomes than European-American families.
Saying Chinese-American is an overly broad statement, however. It encompasses Taiwanese, Mainland Chinese and persons whose families originate from Hong Kong. Among other Chinese (Especially in Southern California), Mainland Chinese are considered the poor cousins or yellow trash. They will commonly tell you that mainlanders are not to be trusted, are frequently trying to hustle you, and that they see other Chinese people as a source of money or resources.
This makes sense (I suppose) because Hong Kong and Taiwan are both economically successful, capitalist countries. China, however, is still a largely agrarian, communist nation.
If Chinese people are your thing, head up to the Bay Area of California. The women are HOT!
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 | Wavebacker (27) 08/01/2005 | Chinese have rather quietly assimilated into America. They primaily are centered on the West Coast where they entered America as cheap labor while developing the West. Since that time, they have made themselves a part of the country while not trying to greatly involve themselves in the Nation as whole. They are an insular group that often keeps things among themselves and hasnt tried to greatly become a part of mainstream America. Still they have made an influence, mainly thru their culinary experise and , in urban areas, their clearly defined neighborhoods.
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