If you hate someone (or if its just not working, found someone better, etc.), why be with them?

If your personal situation has come to the point where you are considering divorce, I really don't think you are spending a lot of time thinking about it's overall impact on society. 

Society is grown up and can look after itself.

Sometimes you just can't stand those crazy fucking women or sometimes they cant stand us crazy fucking men.

Divoce sometimes helps, but if the other is mad, they still might come back for the other, even after the divorce.

Divorce is better than someone hurting someone else!

What hurts society more, a divorce or a toxic relationship?

I'm a survivor of two failed marriages and I can assure you no one of the three people involved went into the marriage expecting or planning a divorce.

People change. Stuff happens.

Sometimes the only way is the road out.


Update: Spare me the arrant nonsense that in the old days people took their vows seriously and worked it out. In the first place, they often didn't work it out, and one or the other buggered off for keeps, with or without a divorce. And some of those that toughed it out spent the rest of their lives in two solitudes. Yeah, that's so much better.... Give ME a break.


And then of course there are these kinds of reasons for divorce.

In my own experience, getting married is something like buying a houseplant. You buy it cause it's beautiful & you look forward to watching it grow & bloom. But then you realize you've gotta water the damn thing every day, prune it, give it nutrients, make sure it's getting the right amount of light..if you just expect it to sit there & look pretty all by itself, surprise--it wilts & dies. If you're not willing to put the work into it, stick to dating, which is more like..renting a cactus?

Of course there are extenuating circumstances--partner is abusive, children are better off in a less volatile environment, etc. But by & large, seems to me we live in an era where people demand instant gratification in all aspects of life, & are all too eager to "upgrade" to something new the moment things aren't going their way. I think it's sad that divorce has become such a widely accepted social custom to so many people.

It's hard for both parties when this to happens!!! Some divorce is because of abusive behaviors, others because of their own wants or because they realized that he or she is just not what they thought they would be!!!
In my opinion most divorces are because of a selfish wants or desires with a few exceptions.
When children are affected by divorce it can in most cases be detrimental. It affects their schooling and their general attitude on life! Now children recover and have that uncanny ability to bounce back. But it can be as traumatizing for them, as the for couple divorcing!
Now I do understand that with some divorces, it can be the best thing for all. But being pro marriage I find divorce a distasteful thing in my mouth! But then again I'm in a very good marriage and love what I have! I would never wish divorce upon anyone, especially those who have kids. But would strongly advise counsel before throwing the towel in!!!
Yes I feel it is harmful, but also feel it can bring freedom for those males and females in repressive marriages! I just wish people put as much thought into marriage, as they do in the buying a house in these bad economic times. Sometimes its better not to rush in!!!!!

I know it's wrong to do this, but I have a hard time not judging people who get divorced. Deep down, I know that divorce is the right option for a lot of people -- and for the welfare of their kids. But I also have a tough time shaking this very cynical view I've always had, that too many people get married with naive expectations about riding off into the sunset, and that divorce provides them an easy way out -- at their kids' expense.

I hear and give credit to the argument that an unhappy marriage creates a bad environment for kids. But do single-parent homes always make for better environments? Might kids (mis-) construe divorce as a message that it's okay to walk away from family?

Divorce should be avoided if possible. But sometimes there are violent spouses, control freaks, or those that abuse the youngest of our society. Divorce is never easy, never pretty and very costly, but staying in it for the children often does more harm than good.

Alot of people are getting married to soon in their relationship......... make sure that the person you want to marry is someone that you want to grow old with...... otherwise, stick to dating

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People arent strong anymore, so they take the easy way out. I see WAY too many kids that get stuck in the middle. Marriage has become a joke.
Not like the old days. Your supposed to stick together through the good times and bad times. Thats what your wedding vows are for "Till death do us part". Nowa days one big fight, and its over. I only think divorce is acceptable if its been several yrs, and its just getting worse. After like 6 months or a yr? Give me a break. You shouldnt rush. Especially people that were married more then 3 times. I guess they really know how to pick em.

I don't agree with divorce, although I know it is a sad reality these days. The only time I feel that is the only way to fix the problem is when there is abuse, then I say "get out quick"! A lot of times it comes because there is a lack of communication, or stress because of money problems, and in those cases, there are things you can do to work through those issues. Even in the case of infidelity, I am a believer in forgiveness, to a certain point--and in this case I'd say marital counseling is the best thing to do, because stress and lack of communication is usually what leads to cheating. I don't think it's a sin or anything, some relationships just don't last forever, but I do think that a good portion of the time people give up, they stop talking, they get wrapped up in their jobs, the kids, etc. Communication is the first step to deciding if you really want to divorce or if you just want a quick fix.

Depends on the situation...

maybe you should get to know the person before you go and chain yourself to them?

even the two dont jive...better to be apart

I think with the pop culture, and divorce becoming trendy i believe it's hurtful. When you get married, you share everything, a house, children, finances, cars, and more. A divorce often divides those up, causing problems with banks, children grow up with issues, finances are split, often with child support, alimony, and more. It's a dangerous situation, all around. And no one comes out of divorce unharmed.

It's great, remember that Blink 182 song? without divorce we wouldn't of had that masterpiece.

I agree with divorce...but I think its more expensive to divorce than it is to get married majority of the time..People need to think clearly before they choose who to marry so that they can divorce less maybe

I think it hurts morally, but sometimes it is just time to move on. Love can run it's course and over time it can take it's leave. But how people just get married on a whim these days... do vows mean nothing?

Crappy review. If the marriage sucks get out. If your happy why ask. The kids will be just fine!!!!!

If your unhappy... divorce!

People should try to work things out - but staying married for your children is as stupid as having the children because your marriage is in trouble.

This is a tricky one...I think that marriage and divorce are taken far to lightly...and as a whole that has a negative effect on society. People jump in to quick and jump out with out working on the marriage. However, there are instances when divorce is the healthiest option for everyone involved. Morally, our country is becoming bankrupt.,

I think that til death do us part means something but if that death may come sooner because of your spouse then you should get a divorce

Im down the middle here. I think some use divorce to not try as hard in a marriage but sometimes it is necessary.

You can only take so much shit from one person before killing becomes an option, lol.

I think it's gonna continue to be detrimental until people postpone marriage rather than rely on divorce; the ease of obtaining one and the dissolving stigma make it a handy alternative to working hard and/or waiting until one's mature enough to get married. Not that I don't advocate it. Absolutely, it does have a purpose for liberating men and women from the bonds of tyranny in all its forms. But it's not a joke.

i was raised by a single mother, who raised 15 children, so i've never been effected by divored parents.

ok when it needs to be

you get married, you work it out, that or your a dumb ass for not knowing the person fully before marriage....get a house with them, its the relationship tester

WHATS SO BAD ABOUT IT..UNLESS U GET MARRIED AND DIVORCED THE SAME DAY..

Divorce will usually make someone happy and someone miserable but if it's amicable then that's cool.  Mr. Powell from Charles in Charge stated that "married women are just single women w/husbands."

good for someone single bad for everybody else

Sometimes it is a great thing!!

If it doesn't work, then it simply doesn't work... but I disagree with the seriousness of commitment and marriage being trivialized because divorce is a "popular/commonplace" option on the table.

If were married to my husband you'd divorce to.

devorce helps sociaty somewhat but It also hurts alot of people. however I think it would hurt people even more if they had to stay in a relationship that was not good.

Come on people. Either live with someone first in order to get to know them, or stick and work it out.

Choice involving personal relationships is always a positive thing- as a species, we simply don't function very well if we feel trapped in an unhealthy or unsatisfying relationship. . .unless our loyalties or duties are top priorities.  Like I said, choice and complexity make this a tough and painful decision- but that it can be made makes it a positive aspect of life.

best thing that ever happened to me

but what can you do?

Why stay if being harmed

The traditional family unit is the minority family anymore. People are too quick to jump into making families without being prepared.

better than being married to someone you don't love

Why be miserable if you don't have to? If you're married to someone who beats you or cheats on you or mistreats you or the relationship in some way, why not get out? Why not be happy? just because you loved someone when you married them, doesn't mean that will last forever. People change.

Horrible. to much of an easy way out. People should learn to communicate better. till death do us part not till i get sick of you leaving the cap off the toothbrush.

i'm committed until i'm not committed anymore.

marriage has taken a catastrophic leap away from sanctity. it's so so sad. emeshment and shame is the big thing now.

divorce will always hurt society because it hurts the people in society like death does.

Divorce should be a last resort, when all else in the marriage has failed, not when marriage becomes a perceived inconvenience, as it is a union of love between two people who merge together as one person who cares about the same goals and ideas. Divorce is not only hard on the children,unless in cases of domestic violence it becomes necessary, but represents a broken trust which may never be repaired, even when starting out with a new partner who may have had experienced a volatile past relationship with another, making that trust just so much harder to build on. I think people need to stop and examine themselves first, is it really my partner that is causing this,, or could it be something in my own character that needs to be worked on, or both? The modern couple has become less fulfilled and more egocentric,looking for self pleasure from another, rather than the pleasure they can derive from providing their mate the stimulus they need to help the relationship grow into something special.

ENGAGEMENT RING, WEDDING RING & THE SUFFERING.