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I once got a sweater for my birthday. I wanted a screamer or a moaner, but a sweater was nice too.

Even better, is when she has a natural sense of when to make a lot of noise...

This sounds a bit redneckish on the surface, but that natural sense of chill is appreciated...

I can see this. i know it is important to be heard and know someone is listening. however when you are sitting across a blabbermouth who never shuts up, and it is all me, I, my now lets talk about me some more and only what I am interested in talking about. when make it clear they are not interested in hearing the other person talk. it could raise some flags. there is nothing terrible about silence sometimes or letting another person talk. UPDATE:It occured to me that being quiet is sometimes a better choice in certain situations maybe when angry to bite our lips before we blurt something in anger we may regret. I do not mean quiet like pouting just trying to become calm enough to talk in a more civil way.

The most beautiful and useful sound in the Universe is silence.

They have to know when to be quiet so I can talk...it's all about me!!!! lol

hahahaha. Example: During sports games

What does a woman with two black eyes say? She doesnt say anything, shes been told twice.


Haha, just kidding, but its always good to be with someone who knows when to shut up.

Now there's a sign that a relationship's been taken to the next level...

I will say that a partner who shows good judgement is always a major positive. Many times, not saying anything is even more powerful than doing so. Even more important is what you choose to say when you decide that something needs to be said. Words are powerful, possibly even more than physical force. People who use their words judiciously usually get much further in life than the loudmouths.

That allways comes in handy.. Lol

There is nothing more annoying than a chick I meet at a bar and she doesn't know when to shut it! Babe I like you, you're hawt, but give me some me time.

Well I can see why some would rate this so highly. Ie it is all to do with listening and in a relationship, one of people's deepest desires is to be listened too. That's why people yell in arguments (or one of the reasons), because they want to be heard and they feel you aren't listening to them. In fact, not listening to someone is one of the major things which causes fights and anger and even relationship break ups. To me, listening is very important and 5 stars. But in this context, 'A natural sense of when to be quiet' can sound like 'you know when to shut up.' Well maybe this is sometimes a desired quality into the partner who wants to be the boss ie they want the last word. Someone who just wants to boss you around and desires that characteristic of you shutting up, is not an ideal characteristic to have. But it is still good to be diplomatic though and do things like not yell out and be a smart alic when your partner is on the phone! Or to know when not to say something!

. . . . LOL . . . it's such an eloquent way to say "knows when to shut the hell up" . . .

It's always a nice thing to have someone who knows when it's not a good time to talk. When you're on the phone with them or something, they can sense when you don't want to talk and they'll just listen.

I didn't get married until I was 40. I wasn't anxious to get married and I was determined that if I did, it would be for life; divorce is just not for me. Consequently, I decided I would only walk down the aisle if the girl was perfect. And by "perfect" I don't mean completely without failings. I mean that everything that is important in a relationship, she does correctly or properly. Well, I didn't stumble into such a character until I was 36. Because I didn't get married until I was middle-aged (certainly not because I am such a prize; I'm not), I went out with a whole bunch of different females. My observations were this: Some of them were great and almost every woman has at least one or two things about her that makes her somewhat attractive or desireable. But every woman I had met prior to my wife had at least one glaring failing. Sometimes it was financial irresponsibility. Other times it was emotional self-indulgence/self-absorption/shallowness. But among middle class American females (of whom I dated a whole bunch), easily the most common problem was they just didn't know when to shut up. I speak for the purpose of communicating information. This was only one component/utility/purpose for speech with any number of women I had the pleasure of dating, however. For them, speech could equally be a weapon, means of emotional release, active part of the thought process and general balm for life's problems. And for a good number, talking was a sort of "miracle drug" which they would apply liberally to all situations they deemed worthy ... whether you asked them to put a sock in it or not! I very specifically remember this young woman I was involved with about 10 years ago. Almost like clockwork, every three or four weeks she would make the pronouncement "Sam, we need to talk." She would then sit me down, gather my attention and proceed to launch into some diatribe about the most irrelevant matters on the periphery of concerns. After this went on for a few months, I noted to her "Every time you interrupt what I am doing with one of your 'We need to talk' speeches, I have noticed that you are invariably wrong in your estimation of the situation." Needless to say, my evaluation was not received well. My point: I see women knock themselves out to lose weight, wear fashionable clothes, obtain attractive make-up and hair styles, and even purchase slinky lingerie to increase their appeal. You're wasting your time. I know. I've been there. Cook a little something every now and then and give a man some peace and your attractiveness to many men of substance will increase exponentially.