I dont think so. This is the worst thing to do to your spouse.

Man is human. Woman is human. Crush happens. As long as I'm not treated with neglect or contempt I could accept that I'm not Mr. Right's sole love.

No.

If the love were real and depending upon the circumstances, yes (ship me to crazy island).

Well, I haven't.

As far as I was concerned, it wasn't the sex, it was the deceit that went with it.

I, honestly, don't think that I could. I am not the most open of people, and trusting someone takes time, so once it is broken there's really no going back for me.

This would be tough, because trust is the essential aspect of any healthy relationship. Once that's gone, you could return, but it'll never be the same. It's a sick relationship; you'll always have that doubt in the back of your mind whether if your spouse is cheating on you or not. Adultery is fundamentally a violation of trust; it's difficult to regain once it's been broken once.

No. . .if she's had enough of me, then leave. . .I'd forgive, but I wouldn't forget. . ."talk to my lawyer"

To a degree, a little, but not completely. In retrospect, I don't fault my ex for needing to be with other girls when he was with me: he wasn't ready to settle down. I DO fault him for lying about it (as well as all the other crap that went down), and I do fault him for getting serious in the first place when he wasn't ready. I've found that in time, I can forgive and harbor no ill will. But "forgiveness" doesn't include staying with them.

I would forgive, maybe but it would be hard to forget and trust them again.

I really don't know. I want to say no because your trust in that person is broken, but I also want to say yes because I love very passionately and sometimes blindly.

Nah. Cheaters will cheat again.